When a toy has different colors, the pink or lighter color belongs to the girl, the darker color belongs to the boy; dolls and other toys are played by girls, and cars and other models are played by boys. Once upon a time, in the choice of children’s toys, the distinction between genders was very obvious. Many times, parents are also happy to comment on this distinction in the subconscious mind. However, Mattel’s new series of neutral humanoid dolls released in 2019 does not have a clear gender distinction. These dolls have a variety of clothing options, you can wear different lengths of hair and different styles of clothes. What’s more, In the chain store Target Store, the “boys” and “girls” labels that were once attached to toys are gone. Instead, toys are divided into categories. So, is it the right choice to no longer distinguish the gender boundaries of toys?
The choice of the parent has nothing to do with the child.
The gender of toys is given by adults, dark and light colors, pink or blue is not the key to the problem, people give special meaning to these two colors is the problem. Children don’t think about this. Only parents think that “Barbie dolls are for girls and car models are for boys.” Children are just curious about this unknown world, they just want to play and explore. That’s it.
When we add our own ideas to toys, we are also influencing children’s views on toys. For children, dolls can be used for any purpose, not just objects to be taken care of. You may have seen a child feed a toy car to eat, or make a phone call with simulated toy food. The meaning that an adult assigns to a toy does not apply to the child. Toys are a tool for them to express their feelings and understand the world.
Give children more creativity
For children, simple toys like some wooden building blocks, animal toys, dolls and cars allow children to create their own characteristics. If you want your children to immerse themselves in their creative imagination, provide toys and time and leave the rest alone. Gender is not a calibration for children to choose toys.
Parents can try to understand the personal needs of their son or daughter: some children like to play quietly, some children like loud toys, some children have specific preferences, like flowers or animals. It is more important to give children enough freedom to play without burden than to analyze their choices; to give children enough space to not evaluate their behaviors, think simpler. Children like new attempts, just let him go. That’s how they learn and grow.
Don’t let the so-called gender of toys become an obstacle to your choice of toys for your children. Don’t impose your own thoughts on your children, let them explore their own interests. If we draw the rules for children and tell them what they want to play, then we are stifling their creativity. Tear off the gender label of the toy and give the children a space to play to their fullest!